A Women Guide: Knowledge of sex life

Pregnancy (Woman As a Mother)

Pregnancy is a proud moment for any Old Age lady and should never be viewed as a burden nor accepted reluctantly. No doubt the pregnant by surprise lady has to pass through a totally novel experience in her life and there could be multiple problems in a primipara (the lady who is going to deliver a child for the very first time) but, in a multipara, the problems are neither novel nor disturbing, for the simple reason that she is now an experienced lady who can weather any storm.
Pregnancy period has been divided into three parts – I trimester, II trimester and III trimester.

Common symptoms of Pregnancy

Stoppage menstrual flow.
Hardening of nipples and change in colour of nipples and area around nipples (areola).
Heariness at pit of (lower ) abdomen.
Occasional vomiting (though rare) and nausea (though quite common).
Occasional fainting
Pain in back and loins, dizziness and headache.
Water- brash.
Cramps, particularly in the lower extremities.
Varicose veins, especially on and around abdomen, legs, feet etc.
Dribbling of urine, or even scanty or suppressed urine – constipated bowels and heart-burn.
Lack or loss of sleep and general restlessness. Longing for clay or burnt earth.
Pile- whether dry or bleeding.
Dry and hacking cough.
Itching of external genitals.
Discomfort due to foetal movements.
Discharge from vagina – generally white.
Pain in breast and enlargement in size thereof.
Mental disturbances.
Fear and apprehension as to whether child-birth would be normal or not.
Bleeding during pregnancy.
Inflammation or/and ulceration of nipples which are sore to touch.
Occasional fever (though rare).

As pregnancy period advances, most of the aforesaid problems disappear. Further, major chunk of pregnancy- related problems occur during I and II trimesters only.

 Cough, nausea and vomiting, fever, bleeding, any type of unusual Pain reduces Pleasure, anorexia (loss of appetite )mental symptoms, leucorrhoea, constipation, any cardiac or respiratory problem, loose motions etc. need to be attended to without any delay, and must be corrected by a qualified gynecologist, though rest of the symptoms of venereal diseases, (though natural ) should also not be ignored.
 Most of the pregnancy-related problems emanate from the following factors:

Sedentary life style, easy –going way.
Lack of well –balanced and nutritious diet and too much adherence to prohibited dietary ingredients lacks fats, spices and condiments or even tobacco use, smoking, alcohol, drugs.
Anaemia –poor quality of blood or deficient Hemoglobin and RBC’s.
Lack of even moderate and normal physical activity.
Playing games, where jumping falls are involved and injures might be sustained.
Leading a lazy life and excessive sex indulgence.

Cautions During Pregnancy

Duration of pregnancy is 280 days – that is nine calendar months and ten days, calculated from the last date of menstruation. During this period, a pregnant lady should take, at least, following precautions, so as to avoid complications.


Element and importance of personal hygiene is of paramount importance and should be a matter of habit. Lack of personal hygiene often results in various diseases which have already been detailed earlier. The lady should remember that if she tries to gratify all her longings, not only hears, but also her child’s health and development will be adversely affected.

She should take bath daily, keeping in view of weather conditions, certain ladies have fad of taking bath daily despite their being indisposed. In this respect, no religious or other fads, compulsions should ever take precedence over her physical capacity and health conditions. When there is reluctance or fear of precipitation of some symptom (like exposure to cold, pain and ache in body, fever cough etc) she should simply sponge her whole body with hot/ cold water, as the case may be. Cleanliness and hygiene of private parts, armpits, thigh- joints, back part of hips, back part of knees, feet and spaces between fingers needs to be kept clean.


Emphasis should always be laid on well balanced diet, i.e. diet must consist of wholegrain cereals, pulses, green and leafy vegetables, milk, seasonal non-irritant fruits. She should avoid fish and meat diet, and also diet over-loaded with fats, oils, spices and condiments. If digestion is poor and weak, she may opt for juices of vegetables and fruits.

Further, she should neither starve herself nor ever overeat. Avoid extreme postures. The child gets his food out of his mother’s dietary intake. After the III or IV month, a pregnant lady should add 50% extra food to her daily diet, which would suffice to meet the requirements of the mother and her child. She shouldn’t lose sight lose sight of the fact that whatever she eats /drinks affects a child’s growth. If good food benefits both harmful and prohibited food also harm both of them.

 Diarrhoea, dysentery or constipation can even Abortion, in addition to disturbing whole digestive system. Never take any food item that may cause any of the above-mentioned problems. Her diet, as a rule, should be light, bland, easy to digest, be helpful to her and her baby, consist of milk , iron, folic acid, calcium which should be derived from food that are rich in these substances.

Before taking meals, ensure that your hands are thoroughly clean, nails properly clipped and trimmed. Your food should be freshly prepared – it should not be stale, exposed to dust, flies and other harmful bacteria and germs, should not give foul smell. Never eat your meals in a hurry nor cultivate the habit of eating every now and then or whenever desired. You should take your meals at nominated and fixed time. if you are ever mentally disturbed or mentally agitated, no meals should, then be taken.

A pregnant lady requires a high –calorie diet. Your attending physician will guide you in this respect, but, while chalking a dietary plan, based on daily calorie intake, should be as follows (as per generally accepted norms of dietary and calorie requirements.)

  During I and  II trimester  -  3000 Calories per day
  During III trimester -  2300 Calories per day
  During lactation period     -  2700 Calories per day

These parameters are not the last word in daily dietary recommendations, but are based on average need of a pregnant lady per day (a period of 24 hours). Individual cases need to be individualized in view of their physical fitness and health status, when lower or higher calories- diet may have to be prescribed.
Daily diet should consist of following food items, as a normal practice:

  Fruits (seasonal) - 200 gms (Only Fresh Fruits)
  Whole cereal grams   - 350 gms
  Eggs or cheese  - 1-2 eggs or 100 gms of cheese
  Meat or Pulses  -   50 gms
  Sugar or  raw sugar - 50 gms
  Vegetables - 150 gms
  Milk - 750 ml to 1 litre
  Fats  -  50 gms

Above food-chart would suffice to meet a 24-hours requirement of a pregnant lady and her offspring. Total quantity of above mentioned food items should be divided and spread over a period of 24 hours. There are no hard and fast rules, because food requirements generally vary in almost all ladies.

Pregnant ladies, living in poor and lower middle class families are indifferent and callous in respect of their diet. These are the ladies, who give birth to weak, emaciated, underweight, diseased children. In certain traditional families, it is a myth and misplaced conception that the lady of the house should eat only after she has severed all the males and guest in the family planning and also that she should eat whatever is left out (residue of food). If a lady falls ill, entire edifice and management of the entire family would run into doldrums, as she is supposed to look to comforts of rest of family members, and even guests . if lady of the house falls ill, nobody will come to her resume nor lend her a helping hand in her daily duties.

The more a pregnant lady works, the more she has to spend her energy. In order to enable her to compensate for the lost energy, she needs higher calorie diet which, unluckily, is generally denied to her or she may have to blame her own self. Food, and that too proper food, is prime necessity for a pregnant and lactating mother. Let the elderly ladies remember that if they wish to have healthy grandchildren, they should themselves first learn and then advise and insist on the pregnant ladies the importance of timely and nutritious diet-intake.

For the convenience of our readers, a detailed calorie cooked raw, or processed (calorie) food items is given hereunder, so as to enable the ladies to chalk out a suitable diet chart, based on their health condition.

The charts indicate calories found in various food items, but an individual has to select the food items that suit her and also which of them have been actually recommended to her by the physician. Food calories are needed to maintain our basal needs.

In order to avoid monotony, food items should be exchanged and substituted by those foods which are able to yield total calories required for a 24 hour period.


Exercise means physical activity. Food intake generates energy, which is the resultant end of calorie intake. In order to burn and expend the energy resort, to regular and proper exercise, by whichever means, hardly needs to be emphasized. If diet is needed to sustain our body, exercise is meant to expend the generated energy – the two factors , of diet and exercise, being compensatory to each other and both should be accorded equal significance and status.

A pregnant lady, in order to ensure proper health of her own self as also health and growth of her offspring, should ensure physical activity that can be attained by regular morning and evening walking. Morning –walk should be brisk, but not very fast, least she slips or falls, thereby injuring herself and the child. It may even result in excessive bleeding and even, ultimate miscarriage. Evening walk should be simply a stroll. Walking entails exercise of whole body and also doesn’t exert any undue strain on body-external organs.

Avoid the following situations while doing exercises:

Jumping, skipping, running.
Do not walk unduly faster than the body can actually endure.
Never exceed the limits of your physical capacity. At once stop the exercise as soon as you begin to pant or suffocate or tire.
When you are getting fatigued it is nature’s initial warning signal, which must not be ignored and overlooked. ICU a warning to you that you must not push your exercise any further.
If ever there is any pain in the body, it may be due to stiffness of joints which complaint disappears by regular and sustained physical activity.
No yogasana should be performed with proper guidance of a yoga expert, who should be immediately consulted as soon as some discomfort is felt.
Any exercise, which exerts pressure on abdomen, must be given up.
Never take to any exercise immediately after taking meals.
Aerobic exercise push up blood circulation, hence perform them under an expert’s guidance only. Ladies suffering from high blood pressure, breathlessness or any heart related ailment, should be extra cautious in this context.


Rest means relaxation of body and mind, but never implies sleeping. When body is tired and mind is disturbed, simply relax to calm your agitated body and mind.

Never sleep after taking lunch, instead you can enjoy a short nap or simply listen to radio or watch T.V. read some interesting magazine or daily newspaper. It will provide you much need rest and also relax your body and mind.

After dinner never lie down. You may engage yourself with your family members’ Some common definitions. Even a simple conversation, but not any heated argument, can serve as a nerve soother. Evening walk, preferably after dinner, will also provide much relief and relaxation.

Rest is a great tonic. What you can achieve through rest, you may not achieve through rest, you may not achieve through tonics. If you enjoy sound steep at night, your tired body will be able to make up for the lost energy.

Now, a word about rest and sedentary life. Sedentary life style is an inert, inactive and sloth way to rest the body.

A Sedentary Lady suffers from….
Indigestion, dyspepsia, flatulence, belching, gas formation, colic etc. and all those symptoms are off-shoots of absent physical activity.
There should be dull headache symptoms, though such chances are quire rare, as there is simply a risk factor and not a question of suffering from diabetes. Diabetic mothers should control their diet, take to regular exercise (without being sedentary).
Proper exercise , rest and relaxation, nutritious and balanced diet, freedom from mental strain and physical fatigue are the basic factors that help a woman to give birth to a healthy child. If any complication surfaces, but is either neglected or not treated properly and in time, it may have ramifications of far, reaching consequences which are liable to affect the mother and her child.

It is the duty of elder members and pregnant lady’s husband to ensure cheerful and tension free environs in the family. If tensions and disorders persist and the contributory factors are also not eradicated, it is no using expecting a healthy child from a pregnant lady. In a joint family, problems go on multiplying, but no effort is made to resolve the crisis – it is more so, where the husband is timid, economically dependent or does not contribute to joint family’s expenses. Social and economic factors should never tell upon the mental cruelty and physical health of a would-be mother and her offspring. Let us not forget that only a healthy mother can deliver a healthy baby.