Adulthood Entry of Boy-Girl

Sex and Health

Masturbation in Males and Females

Dispelling Myths about Sex

Sexual Fantasy

The First Night

How to Arouse a Woman

Erogenous Female Zones

Vaginal Stimulation for Easy Entry

Tips to Enhance  Males Sex Desire

How to Arouse a Man

Use Your Mouth to Arouse Him

Different  Charming Postures

Make Sex Hotter

 

Fear of Sexual Performance

Many married couples fear any kind of sex act and either of them may have to curt a sorry figure or hand down head in shame,  more so at the inception of intercourse .  This is only an apprehension-based hesitancy that leads to imperfect sexual job.  The situation  is often found in newly  wedded couples, and especially  among those who had freely indulged in sex acts or any other  sexual activity during their young age, prior to marriage.  All such fear are based on  lack of confidence or protected superior sexuality of the  other partner.  The problem is more common in men, though women  are also  prey to it.

Solution lies in mutually understanding  each other's mental frame, explain the inherent problem.  It may seek mutual solutions etc.  Due to gender superiority males hesitate to tell their sex problem to their partners  lest they are mistaken  as impotents or weak sex performers.  The fact of the  matter is such or any other fear is born out of apprehension only.

Premature ejaculation is the main fear of men. In western countries sexual play, among  married couples, is rarely taken off the feet by the  couples, as most of whom must have premarital sex enjoyment. So, inhibition is an alien term  with them.  Each partner  is fully aware of the problem of the other sex, as marital sex is merely a closed door act of they had been doing in their pregnancy-marital sex play, and curiosity element in both in both sex partners is found to be  missing, as both are experienced hands.

The  fear of non-performance haunts those who are novices and generally  had no pregnancy-marital sex coitus-even  lack of performance  stems from lack of confidence in one's own self,  the fearing partner should take his mate into confidence and guide her/him, as to what she/he should do  to enhance and prolong sex  pleasure,  and what she/he must  not do to  cause premature ejaculation.  Fore play is, in fact, meant also  to be utilized for such and many other likes and dislikes, Do's and Don'ts.  This interaction should take place, with utter frankness, between both partners.  For instance, if a woman plays with males sex organs, the man will naturally ejaculate  earlier, much  to disgust of both partners.  'Fore play' should be fully utilized  for proper and fair  interaction.   Once, both the partners understand  each others   problems, the problem would get resolved.  But the ego in a man would be  hurt,  so he deserts from disclosing or seeking assistance of his mate.  This element of hesitation must  be given a go-bye, as most  problems are merely psychological and not physical.

The woman also  hesitates to interact with her partner lest she is taken as a cold and frigid person.  Here, the man should  be  guided  as to handle  which  organ at what time, and how to play with it.  certain sensual women  reach their orgasm earlier  than their men and, when it so happens, the  disgusted fellow is left in the middle of sex game to fend for herself.  Too much pregnancy coital sex acts usually ignite  persons of both the partners, and there is every chance that one of the two may 'come' earlier.

Fear of sex performance must not be allowed to intrude upon marital happiness. In certain cases a woman/man may have imbibed or developed a few habits which are disliked by the other partner. Those, who have freely indulged in sex acts in pregnancy marital days, shouldn't ever infer or take for granted that other partner will accept all their odd habits and behavior. Only a cautious and friendly approach could find a viable way out, much to the enjoyment and satisfaction of both the partners. It is a well known  adage that habits die hard, and once having died they erupt again. But one's  preferred ways of odds sexual behavior must not be ever imposed on the partner.

In view of the forgoing, it can be easily deduced that  fear of sexual performance can be easily resolved through interaction, frank and open discussions and proper and mutual understanding. One or two failures, if tolerated, will bounce back confidence and faith which can go a long way in  enjoying happy sex, rather converting the tension-ridden atmosphere into a situation  where  there  is no win or loss for anyone but total enjoyment.

 

Sex During Menses and Pregnancy

Post-Coital Pleasure

Taking initiative in Sex Play

Fear of Sexual  Performance

Food to enhance  Sexual Potency

Yogic Exercises for better Sex Life

Homeopathic , Ayurvedic and Acupressure Treatment

The Modern  Techniques and Methods for  Birth Control

Queries for the Married Life

How to Educate About Sex

Important Words of Sex

Proper Atmosphere to Enjoy Sex