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 Sexual Intercourse: Main Positions

It is theoretically possible to outline scores of positions for intercourse, but there are actually only a few basic ones and all others are minor variations on these few fundamental themes. Most couples. Moreover, will usually find it convenient, after a while, to employ one or two coital positions most of the time and to vary these with other positions from time to time.

          Particularly where one of the partners has difficulty becoming sufficiently aroused or achieving an orgasm , it will usually be found that this partner is helped by the couple's assuming one or two regular positions after they have first experimented with a good many others.

          It will also usually be discovered that the main positions favored by a given couple can be attained more easily in some instances by this couple's first assuming quite a different position and then, while the partners are still interlocked, shifting or rolling into the desired one. Thus, entry can be achieved in a face to face position, with either the male or female on top; and then, by shifting or rolling, a side by side position can be effected.

          Some of the main coital positions and their advantages and disadvantages will now be discussed.

          Face to face, man on top. Vaginal-penile contact is quite easily achieved in the face to face, man on top position especially if the woman spreads her legs and flexes her knees or raises her feet. Sometimes, her feet may be placed on the male partner's shoulders and remain there during part or physical and psychological of intercourse. If necessary, her buttocks may also be raised by putting a pillow under them.

          It is usually important, in this position, that the man not lie directly upon the woman, thus limiting 'her freedom of action and often becoming onerously heavy on her. He should, instead, support the weight of his own body on his hands or elbows.

          It is sometimes also important, especially in the case of a woman who has some difficulty in getting an orgasm, that the male "ride high" or otherwise rock or press against the clitoris during intercourse (although, as noted in the previous chapter, the "riding high" technique has distinct limitations in many instances).

          It is sometimes also desirable, after entry has been effected, for the woman to close her legs, arch her back (sometimes with a pillow underneath it), and constrict her vaginal opening and walls, thus achieving more friction of the penis against her vulva and vagina. This may also be an excellent position if the male has a small penis and requires additional friction for his own pleasure. Pressure against the base of a man's penis in this position may likewise help him maintain erection if he finds it difficult to attain and sustain full erectile power.

          Additional variations on the face to face, man on top position may include (a) the wife's keeping her legs apart and flat; (b) keeping them between her husband's knees; (c) putting one of her legs between his legs; (d) bending her thighs back toward her chest; (e) raising one of her legs while keeping the other flat; (f) wrapping one or both legs around her husband's and (g) wrapping her legs around his waist.

          Some of the chief advantages of the face to face, man on top position are:

          1. It usually makes for easy entry if the woman's thighs are parted and raised.

           2. It allows the male to set the pace and to slow or hasten his own orgasm.

          3. It facilitates great intimacy between the two partners, including mutual kissing.

           4. The male can sometimes continue intercourse even after he has had an orgasm.

          5. It is a good position for impregnation, since after intercourse the woman can keep her knees raised and prevent the sperm from leaving her vagina.

           6. It is most convenient for couples who enjoy the male's making vigorous pelvic thrusts.

           7. If the woman flexes her knees or places her feet on the man's shoulders she will thereby narrow her vagina and intensify her and her partner's satisfaction if she tends to be vaginally wide and slack.

          Some of the chief disadvantages of the face to face, man on top position are

           1. It tends to restrict the female's movements and thrusts.

          2. It sometimes leads to too deep penetration and to pain on the part of the woman.

          3. It is not easy for the male to resort to manual friction on the woman's clitoris in this position.

          4. It is often too stimulating for the male and induces him to achieve climax too quickly.

          5. It may be too acrobatic, when the extreme flexion position is used, for some couples, particularly for older and stouter mates; and in this position face to face intimacy is reduced.

          6. If the male or female is obese it may become rather uncomfortable for the woman to have to bear the weight of her mate.

           7. It may be uncomfortable and inadvisable for women in the later stages of pregnancy.

          Face to face woman on top.In this position the male lies on his back and the woman squats over him and guides his penis into her vagina; or she sits down in an ' astride position on his erect penis and loins, resting her back against his flexed knees and raised thighs. Or else the husband and wife can achieve penetration in some other position, such as the man on top position, and then gently roll around until the woman is on top.

          Once entry has been effected the woman can keep squatting, or can sit astride, or straighten out her legs and lie between or outside her husband's. The man can lie prone, or can raise himself on his hands or elbows, or raise his knees on the side of or in back of his wife.

          Advantages of the face to face. woman on top position include:

          1. The woman often has maximum freedom of action and can move her loins so that her clitoris or other sensitive parts of her vulva directly rub against the male's genitals. The female can also, if she is athletically inclined, learn to make circular or powerful forward and backward rhythmic pelvic movements which may be most satisfying to her and her husband.

          2. Because he can rest relatively quietly, without too much movement on his part, the quick triggered man may often last longer in this position.

          3. If a woman has a short vagina or has sensitive organs she may be able to regulate the depth of penetration and prevent any pain or injury to herself.

          4. If a woman enjoys deep penetration or contact of the penis with her cervix, this position allows for such maximum penetration.

          5. The easily tired or relatively unathletic male can maintain this position for a long period of time, until his mate achieves climax.

           6. Where a woman has a long vagina or a male a fairly short penis, this position, because of its facilitating maximum penetration, may be more satisfying.

          7. Some women are aroused by their own pelvic thrusts, which can be made satisfactorily in the woman on top position.

          8. The female surmounting position frees a man's hands so that he can caress his partner satisfactorily and manipulate her clitoris if this is desirable. Although fully embracing the female is impossible when she is sitting astride, the partners have a full view of each other and may be inordinately pleased and excited by watching each other's movements and physique.

           9. As Van de Velde (1926) points out. "There can be no doubt that coitus astride really can afford the summit in both excitement and response, the acme of specific physical sexual pleasure, to both man and woman."

          10. In instances where one or both partners, particularly the male, is obese, this position is practical and comfortable for many individuals.

          Some of the disadvantages of the face to face, woman on top position are these:

           1. The male's freedom of movement and of making pelvic thrusts may be impaired and he may consequently lose his erection.

           2. Many women are not athletic or acrobatic enough to master this technique and feel uncomfortable when engaging in it. The very acrobatics of the position may detract from these women's pleasure.

          3. Where the woman's vagina is short, penetration may be too deep and uncomfortable.

           4. Where the woman's cervix is sensitive or vulnerable, penetration may be too deep.

          5. The man's penis may keep slipping out of the vagina as copulation proceeds.

          6. Van de Velde believes that, because it offers many possibilities for high sex tension, mobility, stimulation, and excitement, the woman astride position is too wearing and should only be occasionally used by older individuals but not necessarily avoided by younger and more vigorous ones.

           7. The position is a poor one for impregnation, as some of the male's sperm is likely to seep from the female's vagina during and after intercourse.

           8. When a woman is pregnant, this position may be uncomfortable for her.

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