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Sexual Intercourse:  Physical Aspects

Even though the psychological foundations of satisfactory intercourse between a husband and wife may be well established, there  are several important physical aspects of coitus which must usually be considered.  We shall now discuss some of these physical problems.

          Physical receptivity. As previously noted, intercourse should normally be engaged in only when both partners are sufficiently aroused and ready for it.  Signs of redness have been discussed in psychological foundations.

          Receptivity for intercourse may sometimes be associated with an individual's physical  condition at certain times of the day or month.  Thus, some women are periodic in their sex desires and capacities and are much more  ready for coitus on certain days such as the days before, during, or immediately after their  menstrual periods than at other times.

          Some men also have periodic cycles during the month, which may possibly be correlated with their production of sex  hormones.

          In individual cases, you and your partner's cyclical variation have to be determined by experience and observation  and intercourse should  be had, as much as possible, in relation to such cycles.

          Many husbands and wives are not particularly periodic on a month to month or day to day basis, but  are much more ready for  intercourse at one time of  the day than another.  some  prefer nighttime and some the morning hours   for coitus;  while some may even prefer midday hours.  There is no reason why such personal preferences cannot be discovered and, at  least   to some extent,  conformed to as  the daily schedule of living allows.

          Because of convention, most people in our society seem to have their coital relations almost exclusively late at night, just before they go to sleep.  This time, however, has distinct disadvantages for many  persons who are  fairly tired and lacking in energy by the end of the day.   It is likely that a good many couples should  select  some  more  suitable time.

          Intercourse  can also sometimes  be more  satisfactorily bunched at given time such as at weekends, when  conditions  for it may be better that had more regularly.  Whatever is more convenient and comfortable   for the   partners can and should   be arranged in this respect.

          Sexual mechanics.The matter of human mechanics should be seriously considered  in having  intercourse.  A human being sex  can drive a car only because his body is able to execute certain  motions (bending , pushing, holding, stretching, etc.) and because the car parts (steering wheel, brake, ignition switch, and so on) are  designed  so that   they can be manipulated by the kind of body he possess.  Put  a radically different kind of person (such as a midget) in a  regular car or a regularly built  person   in an  unusually constructed   car (such as one where the steering wheel is far to the right of its usual position)  and difficulties will immediately  arise.  Or put   a normal  person in a   regular  car and  let him try to steer with his  feet instead  of his hands and watch out.

          So with intercourse.  People have to be somewhat designed for effective coitus; and, granting  that they are well designed for the purpose  (which, fortunately, most of them  are) they have to do the right kind of  mechanical things  with their  physical apparatus. This means, at the start, that they must  accept the fact that, like cars, people are different.

          You would not try to drive a mighty Buick in exactly the same way as you would try to drive a tiny Austin.  In many instances, you would not even try to drive one Buick exactly as you would drive another. Why, then, should you try to have intercourse with one individual exactly as you may have had it with quite a differently constructed person?   Why need you do the same sexual things with one that you might do with another?

          One couple, for example, may consist of two wiry supply, athletic type individuals who can easily performs and highly enjoy, all kinds of sex outlets.  Another couple may consist of two rather obese, sedentary individuals who can just about  achieve and  enjoy one or two coital positions or who even find coitus  itself, in almost any position, too mechanically difficult and who  therefore normally resort to extra coital means  of satisfaction.  As long as each of these couples does what it wants and it enjoys, why should it try to ape the coital  technical of others?

          Sex adeptness, particularly when coitus is carried on for a fairly long period for time on a given occasion, requires not only penile-vaginal but general mechanical  aptitude.  The fact that a given position, such as the usual one with male mounting the female in a face to face position, is easy to enter by no means proves that it is just as easy to maintain.

          A male, for example, may have no difficulties with his penis but may have great trouble with his  back; and  arching it over his partner for  fifteen minutes or more may be the last  thing he needs to keep  in good  physical conditions.

          Or a female may have  an easy time getting into a good copulatory position when her husband  is on top; but then, because  of rectal trouble, sensitivity of the pubic  bone region, or some other non-sexual difficulty, she  may become uncomfortable  after a few minutes of intercourse in this  position.

          Under these  circumstances,  experimentation  is necessary to discover what  is the most  generally comfortable,  and not  merely the most  sexually effective, positions for each couple to assume.  At times, in  spite of physical discomfort, sex partners may deviate from the coital sex positions they find satisfactory.  But most  of the time  they  will find it better to maintain  comfortable  positions, even when they find that  these  have some sexual disadvantages.

          Favoring the partner with the greater difficulty.  It is usually advisable to give special favor and attention  to the general and sexual requirements of the partner  who has the greater  difficulties having satisfaction.  Thus, a man may find it most enjoyable to have sex relations in the usual face to face position, surmounting his mate.  But he may also find this position so enjoyable that he has an orgasm quickly and thus makes it difficult for his wife to have maximum satisfaction.  Under the circumstances, it might be advisable for this couple usually to employ some other coital  position where the man's  orgasm tends to be retarded.

          By the same token, a husband and wife may find that having physical intercourse in a certain way-say, through entering the vagina  from the rear instead of the  front may be mechanically efficient and enjoyable  but that it tends to lead to intercourse that is prolonged indefinitely without climax by one of the partners.  This couple may therefore try using another position that, in some respects, may be less enjoyable but that, in some respects, may be less enjoyable but that enables both mates to reach climax more quickly.

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