Sexual Behaviour In Youth

DIFFERENT KIND OF CONGRESS LOVE QUARRELS

In the pleasure-room decorated with flowers, and fragrant with perfumes, attended by his friends and servants, the man should receive the woman, who will come bathed and dressed, and will invite her to take refreshment and to drink freely this are necessary things to enjoy sex.

He should then seat her on his left side, and holding her hair, and touching also the end and knot of her garment, he should then carry on an amusing conversation on various subjects, and may also talk suggestively to things which would be considered as coarse, or not to be mentioned generally in society.

They may then sign, either with or without gesticulations and play on musical instruments, talk about the arts, and persuade each other to drink. At last when woman is overcome with love and desire, the man should dismiss the people that may be with him, giving them flowers, ointments, and betel leaves, and then when the two are left alone, they should proceed as has been already described in How To Enhance Sex Desire.

Such is the beginning of sexual union. At the end of the congress, the lovers with modesty, and not looking at each other, should go separately to the washing-room. After this, sitting in their own place, they should eat some betel leaves and the man should apply with his own hand to the body of the women some pure sandalwood ointment, or ointment of some other kind.

He should then embrace her with his left arm, and with agreeable words should cause her to drink from a cup held in his own hand, or he may give her water to drink. They can then eat sweetmeats, or anything else, according to their liking and may drink fresh juice soup, gruel, extracts of meat, sherbet, the juice of mango fruits, the extract of the juice of the citron tree mixed with sugar, or anything that may be liked in different countries, and known to be sweet, soft, and pure.

The lovers may also sit on the terrace of the palace or house and enjoy the moonlight, and carry on an agreeable conversation. At this time, too, while the woman lies in his lap with her face towards the moon, the citizen should show her the different planets, the morning star, the polar star, and the seven Rishis, or Great Bear. Congress is of the following kinds:

Loving congress Congress of subsequent love Congress of artificial love Congress of transferred love Congress like that of eunuchs Deceitful congress Congress of spontaneous love.

When a man and woman, who have been in love with each other for some time, come together with great difficulty, or when one of the two returns from a journey, or reconciled after having been separated on account of a quarrel, the congress is called the loving congress. It is carried on according to the liking of the lovers, and as long as they choose.

When two persons come together while their love for each other is still in its infancy their congress is called the congress of subsequent love.When a man carries on the congress by exciting himself by means of the sixty-four ways, such as kissing, etc., or when a man and woman come together, though in reality they are both attached to different persons, their congress is then called congress of artificial love.

When a man, from the beginning to the end of the congress, though having connection with the woman, thinks all the time that he is enjoying another one whom he loves, it is called the congress of transferred love.

Congress between a man and a female water carrier, or a female servant of a caste lower than his own, lasting only until the desire is satisfied is called congress like that of eunuchs. Here external touches, kisses, and manipulation are not to be employed,

The congress between a courtesan and a rustic, and that between citizens and the women of villages, ad boring countries is called deceitful congress.The congress that takes place between two persons who are attached to one another, and which is done according to one another, and which is done according to their own liking is called spontaneous congress.

Love Quarrels: A woman who is very much in love with a man cannot bear to hear the name of her rival mentioned, or to have any conversations regarding her, or to be addressed by her name through mistake. If such takes place, great quarrel arises, and the women cries, becomes angry, tosses her hair about, strikes her lover, falls from her bed or seat, and casting aside her garlands and ornaments, throws herself down on the ground.

At this time, the lover should attempt to reconcile her with conciliatory words, and should take her up carefully and place her on her bed. But she not replying to his questions, and with increased anger, should bend down his head by pulling his hair, and having kicked him once, twice, or thrice on his arms, head, bosom or back, should then proceed to the door of the room.

Dattaka says that she should then sit angrily near the door and shed tears, but should not go out, because she would be found fault with for going away. After a time, when she thinks that the conciliatory words and actions of her lover have reached their utmost, she should then embrace him, talking to him with harsh and reproachful words, but at the same time showing a loving desire for congress.

When the woman is in her own house, and has quarreled with her lover, she should go to him and show how angry she is, and leave him. Afterwards the man having sent the message to pacify her, she should accompany them back to the house,and spend the night with her lover. Excepts from the Kama Sutra by Vatsyayana