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Body language was published in 1970, thirteen years ago, and since that time my life has changed in a number of ways. In addition to my writing, I became a guest on dozens of television shows, and I began to lecture to groups all over the United States to businesspeople and students, lawyers as and doctors, schoolteachers and auctioneers.
I have been asked to conduct industrial seminars, been involved in encounter groups and sensitivity sessions, have taught a number of classes on body language, and have been called in as a consultant by politicians and executives and Beyond The Spoken Word.
What to me seemed at first a very obvious thesis - we communicate with our bodies as well as our mouths- has mushroomed into an overwhelming occupation. I have had a to probe deeper sand deeper into the subject in order to Keeping Sexual Chemistry Alive up with my own field.
In addition to the lecturing and teaching, I have had many letters from people in every walk of life asking questions on every aspect of body language. Among the more intriguing letters I received were those from young Ph. D Candidates searching for various aspects of nonverbal Metacommunication to explore for their doctoral theses. A number of them questioned me about me body language of sexual attraction, how it worked and why it worked.
I was able to give them some direction in terms of research, but the very number of questions on this subject started me off on a new line of speculation. Just what is sexual attraction, or Sexual Chemistry? How does it work, and why? Is it completely a matter of psychology, or is there a biological basis to the attraction we humans feel for each other? Is sexual chemistry a physical matter involving receptors and receptor sites within the brain? What are the elements what make up sexual chemistry, and how do we use them?
Some years ago I did a medical motion picture for a drug company on the work of Dr. Jose Delgado at Yale University, Dr. Delgado, a neurophysiologist, had implanted electrodes in the pleasure center that regulates sexual enjoyment, a part of the hypothalamus. He discovered that stimulation of these centers, by electricity or with chemicals, would cause sexual arousal, the animal equivalent of sexual chemistry in humans.
In the years that followed, I continued my research into sexual chemistry, questioning hundreds of men and women about their experience with love and attraction, compiling statistics, and gradually uncovering and understanding that mysterious force that can suddenly, and without warning, ignite immediate chemistry between two people.
In the course of my research I met Meredith Bernstein, who for many years had been reading up on Sexual Chemistry. Meredith, who gathered an impressive amount of data in the course of her research, seemed a natural collaborator. We combined our findings, and the writing of sexual chemistry was under way.
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