Which Aspects of Your life Need Healing?

The Healing Touch

Setting the State for a Healing Relationship

Sexual Fitness

Becoming a Sexual Healer

Using Lovemaking to heal Emotional and Mental Problems

Becoming a Sexual Healer- Advanced Exercises

How to Be a Sexual Healer with Intercourse

Lovemaking to Heal Physical Ailments

Healing Man's Sexual Problems

Healing Woman's Sexual Problems

Lovemaking to Heal Your Relationship

Spiritual Healing through Lovemaking

Healing Women's Sexual Problems

The most common sexual problems women experience are lack of desire, difficulties with  arousal and orgasm, and pain with  intercourse .  This  chapter offers practical exercises to help  you become aroused, have fulfilling orgasm, and  triumph over sexual  pain.  By understanding your body  better, you can strengthen   the power of your mind body connection.

Women's Sex Drive and Sexual Desire

Over the years, I've learned a lot about women's  sex drive, and I don't believe that sex drive and sexual desire are the same thing.  But both contribute to a woman's desire for intercourse and sexual  intimacy.

Women's sex drive  is fired by the hormone testosterone, the  same  hormone responsible for men's sex drive.  (Contrary to most people's impressions, women produce testosterone too, but in much smaller amounts than men.)  sexual desire, on the  other hand, is a complex interaction in which our mood, self consciousness, intimate relationship, and the  external circumstances  affect our sexual interest  and arousal.

Let's talk about sex drive first, since it is more straightforward.  Our sex  drive is dynamic, evolving with the hormonal  changes in our life need heal.  These hormonal  changes in  turn are triggered  by life.  These hormonal changes in turn are triggered by life changes.  Pregnancy, childbirth, menopause, and   surgery alter levels of hormones, particularly testosterone, thus increasing  or decreasing sex drive. Birth control  pills because  they synthetically regular  hormone levels, can also affect sexual urges.  A good guide  to the changes and  cycles of desire in women is Women, Sex and Desire, by Elizabeth Davis.

If your  sex drive has been strong in the past, it would be unusual for you to experience no desire to make love for a long time.  If you are concerned that you have lost your sex drive (you never want to make love) and your surrounding conditions  have not changed (you  remain in love with your  partner, are not unduly stressed, are not on the  Pill or other hormonal medications),  there may be a biological  cause for this. I recommend you consult a endocrinologist, who  can check your hormonal levels.

Desire, on the other hand, is nourished by our  mindset.  So stress, lack of sexual confidence or experience, and mild depression can all have negative  effects.  Low sexual desire is extremely  common in fact, in the 1980s so many people felt  their desire succumb to stress and  overwork that it came to be known as the "yuppie disease."  Luckily it is very easily remedied.  If you feel  this is what is affecting you, the advance exercises  in this  book can help you relax, get comfortable with your  sexual potential, and stir  up your sexual  desire.

A less common and more serious cause  of low  sexual desire  is the repercussion of a traumatic event, particularly  if it was of a sexual nature.  We often cope with trauma, whether recent or past, by deflecting the experience  within ourselves.  If this is what you encounter, I urge you to seek professional help and give yourself  permission  to be sexually healed.  Putting this trauma behind you will free you to embrace the full spectrum of your  sexuality.

A program for Deepening Desire

In my experience, women's sexual desire is an intricate  interplay of factors.  It has as much if not more to do with love,  acceptance, permission, body image, setting, and the attractiveness of their partner  as it does with hormones  or stress levels.  We have  all been in a situation where we  didn't  want to make love  because  we felt  unattractive, we  were  stress out, our  partner  wasn't communicating  feelings, the laundry wasn't done, or we were worried about the kids or what we had to do the next day.

What is the solution?  If you have certain  conditions that  need  to be met before you make love, do your  best to create those conditions up to a point.  Nothing  can ever be perfect,  but if you like to make love in a  beautiful  setting with flowers, scents, music, lines, then create that setting, even if only for one   night!  if you need to feel beautiful before  you make  love, set aside  a special time to take a bath,  give yourself  a manicure and  pedicure, do your  hair, or put  on a sexy outfit.  All of these can boost your sexual desire because  they nourish your feelings  of sensuality.

What if you feel your  sexual  desire is low  because of poor self-esteem  or body  image?  Explore the body image exercises in Chapter 6.  You  can heal these  attitudes by getting in healing touch with  your body's unique beauties  and strengths.

What if your desire of your partner has wanted or you don't find him as  attractive?  The bonding and communication exercises in Chapter 6 and 12 will put you back in touch with your partner  and his body, the nuances of your intimate relationship, and the qualities in your partner  that drew you to him.  They may also help you realize aspects of both of you that have grown and changed  over time.

You may also boost your desire by encouraging your sensual and sexual therapy   and sexual potential.

  • Try the self touch exercises in Chapter 2 to learn about  your own body.
  • Increase your sexual fitness using the exercise in Chapter 4.
  • The exercises that will probably make the  biggest difference will be the sexual healing partner exercises in Chapter 5.

Ultimately, if you  work through all the  partner exercises you find in this book,  including  sexual healing intercourse, I guarantee your sexual desire will return.