Which Aspects of Your life Need Healing?

The Healing Touch

Setting the State for a Healing Relationship

Sexual Fitness

Becoming a Sexual Healer

Using Lovemaking to heal Emotional and Mental Problems

Becoming a Sexual Healer- Advanced Exercises

How to Be a Sexual Healer with Intercourse

Lovemaking to Heal Physical Ailments

Healing Man's Sexual Problems

Healing Woman's Sexual Problems

Lovemaking to Heal Your Relationship

Spiritual Healing through Lovemaking

Lovemaking to Heal Physical Ailments

I believe very strongly in the healing power of lovemaking because I've witnessed some incredible physical healing take place in my surrogate work.  I believe that if this type of healing can develop between a client and a surrogate partner, then the intimate bond of lovers the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual mutuality you share with your partner can be even stronger. And researchers are only now realizing how strong this power can be.  The media has begun reporting increasing instances of spontaneous healing and spontaneous remission.  In the introduction, you read about some people's experiences of sexual healing, and you will read about others in this chapter.  If unbelievable outcomes like these occur spontaneously, imagine the power you can create when you intend to heal yourself and your partner.

Put simply, the information in this chapter is ground breaking. Many people abstractly believe that lovemaking can positively affect  physical illness, but here  for the first  time is a  specific, self help program that will show you how. First, I describe physical  ailments and explain categories for treating  them. From there, I discuss the concepts of mind body healing and how sexual union, specifically, nourishes the mind body  connection. I offer specific strategies for healing different types of physical  conditions. At the end of the chapter I have included general exercises that are rewarding if you have physical limitations.  Throughout, you will find personal  stories from my practice.  By  reflecting on the healing experiences descried in them, you might find insight into your own.

What is Illness?

When approaching physical  illness from the perspective of healing, I treat  four areas of  illness:  psychosomatic illnesses, stress disorders,  chronic illnesses, and physical  conditions that result from trauma.  As a surrogate partner  and therapist, these  categories serve me well when  developing healing approaches and designing programs for clients.  By understanding the root cause of an illness, you can emphasize exercises that address  that cause  as well as the symptoms.  Like many aspects of our health, there may be  overlap between these categories.
           
Psychosomatic Illness : I talked a bit about psychosomatic illnesses in Chapter 1 when introducing  the mind body relationship, but would like to explain more here.  Contrary to popular belief, a psychosomatic illness is not "all in your head."  While psychology  plays a part in creating or maintaining a psychosomatic illness, both the pain and the tissue damage are real.  I believe most   illnesses have a psychosomatic component, and can be partially  healed  psychologically.  I have seen even serious  medical  conditions such as  cancer respond to  psychological intervention. When medical professionals talk about psychosomatic  illnesses, they usually refer to specific conditions, including cardiovascular problems; ulcers and other  gastrointestinal problems; asthma; skin problems such as  psoriasis; immune disorders such as arthritis; chronic pain;  migraines; and menstrual problems.

Stress Disorders :  Psychologists  usually call stress   disorders "psychological  factors affecting  physical conditions."  This category  includes any medical problem in which stress plays a role.  Stress grows out of the  necessity to adjust to changes in one's environment.  So stress related disorders include  psychosomatic illnesses as well as more vague  condition such as fatigue, and short term conditions such as heartburn or neck pain.

When you experience long term  stress, your adrenal glands secrete hormones that degrade your knowledge of sex organs over time.  in some cases , people  have dropped dead from a major  stressor.  The difference between psychosomatic  illnesses and stress disorders is the cause  of the ailment, not the actual physical symptoms.  Stress disorders are caused by environmental factors, whereas  psychosomatic illnesses  are generally caused by long term anxiety or depression.

Chronic Illnesses : I consider  chronic illnesses to be ongoing, incurable, and usually degenerative conditions that a person copes with on a daily basis.  For example, lupus, diabetes, multiple sclerosis, Parkinson's disease, cancer, Huntington's disease, and amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS) are considered  chronic  illness. Sexual healing  can help  alleviate the discomforts of chronic illness, strengthen the immune system, and feed a person's overall well being a key to living successfully with chronic illness.

Physical Trauma :  In this category I include conditions resulting from accidents and surgery, such as spinal cord injury , major  burns, cerebral palsy, and limb amputation. I also include severe obesity and genetic defects here, because many issues are the same .Conditions resulting from physical trauma are most likely to be considered  disfiguring, and so call on special elements of sexual healing.  In our culture, physical attraction can be a big part of  sexual attraction, and conditions in which a person looks different  requires healing issues of self acceptance and self worth. If you are the partner of someone with a condition resulting from physical trauma, sexual healing  can also heal issues or attitudes  you have about health and physical appearance, and how they relate or don't relate to making love.

The sexual healing of physical ailments draws on the holistic power of an individual's mental and physical self.  However, there are types of illness that, because of their causes, cannot benefit from the power of sexual healing, and so I do not include them in physical healing programs.  They include schizophrenia, severe clinical depression, multiple personality disorder, and dementia, such as Alzheimer's disease. These illnesses have mental causes and require specific, professional mental health intervention. If you or your partner exhibits symptoms of these ailments, you should seek professional help.