spiritual healing through lovemaking

Which Aspects of Your life Need Healing?

The Healing Touch

Setting the State for a Healing Relationship

Sexual Fitness

Becoming a Sexual Healer

Using Lovemaking to heal Emotional and Mental Problems

Becoming a Sexual Healer- Advanced Exercises

How to Be a Sexual Healer with Intercourse

Lovemaking to Heal Physical Ailments

Healing Man's Sexual Problems

Healing Woman's Sexual Problems

Lovemaking to Heal Your Relationship

Spiritual Healing through Lovemaking

Spiritual Healing through Lovemaking

Omar sharif  once said, "Making Love?  It is  a communion with a woman. The bed is a holy table.  There I find passion and purification."  Indeed, making love in a committed, intimate mutual relationship  can open up a vast spiritual dimension  in which you two  connect with each other   and with something larger than either or both of you.

I am not  religious and I don't consider myself particularly  spiritual , but I do know that you are missing  something in life if you don't  have a feeling for the transpersonal, even if  the connection you feel is simply with nature.  I have kept  this chapter until last  because it is an introduction  to another dimension  of sexuality-sacred sexuality and some  of  you may relate to it while others may not.  I encourage  you to explore  what this dimension  can hold for you and your partner.

You may have already experienced the transpersonal or transcendental element of lovemaking.  For example, have you ever felt  an altered  state of consciousness, in which everything  looked clearer or brighter, after uniquely passionate sex?  Physically we explain this altered state of consciousness as resulting from the combination of hyperventilation and endorphin release, but that  shortchanges the profound effects  such sexual connection can have on us.  Many couple find sexual union is a way to realize their connection with a higher power, whether that power for them is God or the goddess, nature or goodness.

Sexuality in Religious Traditions

Most religious  traditions have recognized the power of lovemaking and tie it into their  cosmology, or theory  of the universe.  The Judeo-Christian religions   honor the Bible, which includes the Song of Songs, lavish and beautiful poem that celebrates the eroticism of heterosexual lovemaking.  The orthodox jewish traditions refer  to the  Kabbalah, which also contains erotic passages.  The Islamic religion  also includes erotic love poems. Buddhist, Taoist, and Hindu traditions all feature artwork depicting sexual therapy , and they include a focus on how sexual energy is a way to transcend  this world.  Have you  ever seen  pictures of some of the Hindu temple carvings  in India  and Thailand?  They are frankly erotic, often illustrating  copulation  between gods and mortals.

For some people, however, the idea that an organized religion could contain a tradition of sacred sex is very threatening. So many of us have had negative upbringings in restrictive religious traditions  in which sexuality was forbidden  rather than celebrated. Many of us learned  to  avoid sex because our religious background  taught us to associate the body and its sexual impulses with shame and guilt.

For example, I grew up in the catholic tradition and sex was strictly forbidden  (and not even discussed) until you were married.  Upon marriage, suddenly lovemaking became  so special that it was a gift from God, a sacrament that reflected the marriage of Christ and the church. This was a challenging belief  for my friends  and me to understand and come to sexual terms with particularly as teenagers who  were discovering our sexuality, often in the backs of cars!  It was very difficult  for us to relate to sexuality in a sacramental sense when our entire lives up to that  point had been governed  by a  "don't ask, don't tell"  policy.

Understanding the historical roles of sexuality in our religious tradition can help heal  the disjunction we might feel between spirituality and sexuality. Sexual  healing can make it  possible to heal these  attitudes  and allow  your sexual  relationship to enrich your spiritually as well as physically and emotionally.

Spiritual and Erotic  Reading

If you are a member of an organized religion, find out what your religious  traditions has to say about using lovemaking as an expression of your spirituality  and your lovemaking relationship with the deity.  Whether  your religious background is Christian, Moslem, Goddess, nature worship, the "old religion," or something else, you can find  readings around sacred sexuality.  On a special night, take some  of the erotic and or spiritual writings in your traditions and read  them aloud to each other.