Which Aspects of Your life Need Healing?

The Healing Touch

Setting the State for a Healing Relationship

Sexual Fitness

Becoming a Sexual Healer

Using Lovemaking to heal Emotional and Mental Problems

Becoming a Sexual Healer- Advanced Exercises

How to Be a Sexual Healer with Intercourse

Lovemaking to Heal Physical Ailments

Healing Man's Sexual Problems

Healing Woman's Sexual Problems

Lovemaking to Heal Your Relationship

Spiritual Healing through Lovemaking

The Healing Touch

The essence of touch begins within our skin. We may not realize it, but many of us life need to healing some aspect of our relationship with our own body. Beginning in childhood, society bombards us with unrealistic messages about what our body is and what it should be. At the very least we grow up detached from our bodies, viewing them as garments or tools. Sexual healing reconnects our mind and body and uses the power of that unity for our fitness and well being. If whole body health is what we are after, how our body feels is more important than what it does and how it looks. The key to knowing our body's feelings lies in the simple ability to give and receive touch.

Touch Is Vital

Touching has been a traditional treatment for illness throughout human history. In religious history, figures such as Jesus and some saints used lying on of hands to heal people. Later, in Europe, those who were ill and infirm were brought before the king, whose touch would supposedly cure them. Today, curanderas in Mexican and Latin American communities often use touch as part of their treatments.

Touch can communicate a number of things, such as comfort and positive expectations. As a result, touch influences our physical well-being. In fact, there is quite a bit of research on the positive health effects of touch. Much of it has been brought together by Ashley Montague in his classic book, Touching (1986). Montague describes how skin contact affects mental and physical health throughout all stages of our lives, beginning with birth. Studies show that infants who are touched have much higher survival rates than those who are deprived of human contact. Infants who are stroked and caressed develop more healthily, and later in life they develop fewer clinical emotional and mental problems. Other studies with adults find that being touched can lower heart rate and blood pressure and promote physical relaxation in general. Even simply stroking a pet can lower blood pressure and heart rate.

There is no doubt that infants and children need touch to survive, and although there is no research on whether adults need touch, there is also no reason to believe that our need to be touched ends with childhood. The countless good ways that touch benefits us-heals us-may be the reason we feel so good when touched. While I hope this book introduces you to the wonders of sexual healing, I believe the greatest thing it will do is deepen your appreciation for the magic of all touch.

The Nonverbal Power of Touch

In the language of nonverbal communication, touch is an "intensifier." This means that whatever mood already exists in a given situation, touch will make that mood stronger. Remember the first time your partner reached out to touch you before you became lovers? Or, when you were a little child and bumped your head, having your mother hold you and hug you made the pain go away much faster than if she said, "There, there...now go and play."

Not all touch intensifies good feelings. Here is a common example Let's say you have just met someone and on first impression, for whatever reason, this person gives you the creeps." If this person touches you while you are talking, your mood toward him or her will become even more negative.

Touch also conveys power, particularly in the workplace. If an employer touches a subordinate during an interaction, this intensifies their awareness of the difference in power between them. Whether consciously or not, many people use touch to communicate their feelings and intentions.

In Sexual therapy that you will learn to use the intensifying power of touch for positive purposes, to bring healing energy to your mind, body, and intimate sexual relationships .  If a healing attitude already exists between you and your partner, touching will intensify the healing intent you two already exchange.

The Healing Powers of Touch

Touch has been shown to have various, positive healing effects.  I believe this is because touch addresses both your body and your mind.  for example, touching may have a positive effect on the immune system.  Ashley Montague describes research on rats, which shows that rats that are handled when they are young have better-developed immune systems as adults.

Touching also makes it easier to share feelings. Studies show that touch encourages self-disclosure.  For example, patients touched in the genital region by doctors and nurses during a physical examination often reveal personal sexual information.  It appears that being touched in intimate areas taps into intimate thoughts and feelings.

Not surprisingly, touch has positive effects on people facing medical recovery.  For example, patients touched by nurses recover faster than those who are not touched.  It is not known precisely how touching in this situations helps people get better.  It could be that touch directly promotes relaxation, that it stimulates our painkilling and healing mechanisms.  Or, it could be that the act of touching communicates care, and imparts to the patient a sense of self-worth and the expectation of becoming well.  I suspect it is a combination of these things.