Which Aspects of Your life Need Healing?

The Healing Touch

Setting the State for a Healing Relationship

Sexual Fitness

Becoming a Sexual Healer

Using Lovemaking to heal Emotional and Mental Problems

Becoming a Sexual Healer- Advanced Exercises

How to Be a Sexual Healer with Intercourse

Lovemaking to Heal Physical Ailments

Healing Man's Sexual Problems

Healing Woman's Sexual Problems

Lovemaking to Heal Your Relationship

Spiritual Healing through Lovemaking

Using Lovemaking to heal Emotional and Mental Problems

In this chapter, you will learn to use lovemaking to heal anxiety and depression, as well as mental problems such as lack of concentration. You will also learn to heal harmful attitudes, such as poor self image and chronic negativity.

Stopping Stress and Anxiety

The aspects of lovemaking that calm and relax you and those that  strengthen your sense of self also help to allay anxiety.  In chapter 3, you learned relaxation and bonding exercises with your partner.  Here are exercises you can do by yourself to really increase that ability to relax and activate  the benevolent  energies of the parasympathetic  nervous system. Relaxation training is one of the few areas of psychology  that has been proven  effective (sex therapy is another).  so take advantage of these time-tested exercises. You may also benefit from this heightened  relaxation before embarking on the advanced sexual healer exercises with your partner.

Belly breathing

Proper breathing is the basis of like and of feeling alive. The oxygen we take  in with every breath is our life-line, but a lot of us don't breathe properly, and this can create or exacerbate anxiety and sexual problems. The more anxious and pent up we become,  the more constricted our breathing and the less oxygen we take  in.  Before you do anything  else, make sure the way  you  breathe relaxes you.  Here is a simple breathing  exercise  you should do every day.  It is called belly breathing.

The exercise lie comfortably on a bed, on your back. loosen any tight clothing.  Place one hand on your stomach or abdomen and the other on your heart.  Now take a deep, slow  breath that you can feel all the way down to your  abdomen.  Breathe as if you are drawing  breath down through  your body, into your legs and toes. This type of breath will cause your abdomen to expand and rise when you  exhale, it will contract.

As you breathe, inhaling and exhaling should be one continuous process. Don't hold your breath after you inhale.  Feel the air flowing all the way into your lungs and all the way out.  Visualize that  air as a white light flowing in and out of you, not only  relaxing you but energizing  you. If you want to, rest after  each exhale.

To "belly breathe," take two deep belly breaths and then breathe normally for about a minute.  Take two belly breaths again and breathe normally for another minute.  Repeat this pattern for about ten minutes.

Deep Muscle Relaxation

Sexual healing relies on deeply relaxed muscles.  But didn't I say earlier that your muscles should be in good shape to make satisfying love? Of course!  Both are true you need to combine  the healthy energy and stamina that comes from sexual fitness with as much freedom from anxiety as possible to make pleasurable, healing love. 

Deep muscle relaxation is a well-known antidote for anxiety, with a special benefit in lovemaking. When you have mastered it, you will know your own body so well that if a muscle group becomes too tense during lovemaking, you will immediately  notice it. You can then consciously, immediately  relax  so that muscle tension  won't interfere with your lovemaking.

The exercise lie down on your bed, on your back, in a comfortable  position. Starting  with your right foot, then your left foot, tighten each group of muscles  in your and hold them as tight  as you can for a few  seconds, then  relax them.  Remember to breathe as you do this exercise.

Work your way up your entire body, tensing and relaxing each muscle group  feet,  calves, thighs, entire legs, buttocks, abdomen, stomach, chest, neck, hands, lower arms, entire arms, and face.