Which Aspects of Your life Need Healing?

The Healing Touch

Setting the State for a Healing Relationship

Sexual Fitness

Becoming a Sexual Healer

Using Lovemaking to heal Emotional and Mental Problems

Becoming a Sexual Healer- Advanced Exercises

How to Be a Sexual Healer with Intercourse

Lovemaking to Heal Physical Ailments

Healing Man's Sexual Problems

Healing Woman's Sexual Problems

Lovemaking to Heal Your Relationship

Spiritual Healing through Lovemaking

Which Aspects of Your life Need Healing?

The Healing Touch

Setting the State for a Healing Relationship

Sexual Fitness

Becoming a Sexual Healer

Using Lovemaking to heal Emotional and Mental Problems

Becoming a Sexual Healer- Advanced Exercises

How to Be a Sexual Healer with Intercourse

Lovemaking to Heal Physical Ailments

Healing Man's Sexual Problems

Healing Woman's Sexual Problems

Lovemaking to Heal Your Relationship

Spiritual Healing through Lovemaking

Which Aspects of Your life Need Healing?

Do you have physical problems that need healing? Or perhaps you suffer from mild anxiety, depression, or other negative emotions. Maybe you are physically and emotionally fit but feel a vague, spiritual unease, a yearning for meaning in your life. Better yet, you are happy with yourself and satisfied in your relationship, and believe that life can be even better. If any of these describe you, you could benefit from sexual healing.

Sexual healing? What these issues have to do with making love, you may ask. Believe it or not, making love can heal many aspects of your life. Sex is often put down, taken for granted, described as just a physical release, something that animals do, even sinful. But it can become, as, Mae west once put it, "an emotion in motion." Making love is an expression, an exchange, an involvement that connects you-whether you like it or not-not only sexually and physically, but mentally and emotionally, even spiritually with another person. Because lovemaking involves you so completely, it can affect you and your partner in any or all of these areas. In this chapter, we will explore the vast healing potential that lovemaking holds and how it is powered by your mind, body, and soul.

How can healing help if I'm well to begin with? The power of healing, whether it is physical or emotional, is generally positive and healthful. When channeled toward a specific ailment, it has curative effects. When embraced by a healthy person, it brings about greater strength, vitality, and well-being.

As you read about various aspects of sexual healing, consider which will benefit you most and decide how you would like to begin bringing these into your life. The mind and the body affect each other, working together as a system. As a result, you can tap into the system at any point (working on either physical, emotional, sexual, or spiritual problems) and all of you will feel the benefits.

The Physical Benefits of Lovemaking

Do you complain about any of the following ulcers, migraines, asthma, chronic pain, circulation problems, skin problems, general malaise, lack of physical fitness? Complain no longer, for I have seen lovemaking work wonders on these conditions! When I worked as a surrogate partner, many of my clients had physical conditions such as asthma, ulcers, and other gastrointestinal problems. When they realized healing in sexual areas, their physical conditions improved as well. Chapter 9 details how to heal these specific physical problems, but making love, in general, holds great overall physical benefits.

There are so many healthful perk that it is hard to know where to start. Sex making love, is a physical process that involves the interplay of many body systems, especially your respiration and blood flow. Since making love stimulates your breathing and increases your oxygen intake, it can increase your lung capacity. When you breathe, oxygen is drawn into your lungs and then absorbed into your bloodstream. Sex therapy  deepens your breathing and increases the oxygen you take in and helps get your blood pumping, which moves that oxygen through your body. When you make love, a great deal of blood flows to your genitals to cause arousal, erection , and lubrication. When you become highly aroused to the point of orgasm, your circulation increases in all areas of the body, especially in your skin and the muscles of your arms and legs. And just like the love songs say, making love makes your heart beat stronger.

Lovemaking is also a well-known analgesic it relieves pain. When we experience significant arousal on engage in strenuous physical activity, our brain releases chemicals called endorphins. endorphins, which have been likened to opiates such as morphine or heroin, have painkilling properties and are responsible for altered states of consciousness, such as the "runner's high."

I have found that the best way to get your body producing these fabulous endorphins is to allow your sexual arousal to climb in predictable patterns (see "peaking," in Chapter 6). Then, orgasm triggers a tremendous release of endorphins, which can stop pain for up to several hours. Can you think of a better way to find pain relief? That standard cliche, "Not tonight, dear, I have a headache" should really be the opposite "Let's make love tonight, honey have a headache!" The pain relieving endorphin effect can work both for short-term pain such as a migraine and chronic pain such as arthritis.

The release of endorphins has an added benefit, aside from pain relief it boosts your immune system in both the short term and the long term. The endorphin release from arousal and love making encourages relaxation in much the same way as meditation, exercise, and yoga, and this strengthens your immune response. People who have more reliable release of endorphins tend to report fewer symptoms and get sick less. So, sexual touch, arousal, and lovemaking can be a delightful way to help heal painful, immune system-related conditions such as arthritis.

Lovemaking can be very good for relieving physical problems related to reproduction. As many women have discovered, often by accident, making love is exceptionally effective for menstrual difficulties, including painful periods and premenstrual syndrome. Many men with prostate problems experience relief by using the sexual healing techniques for arousal and ejaculation.

Are you worried about your bones? Lovemaking can help ward off osteoporosis because it involves physical exercise. Making love often, whether vigorously or for long periods of time, exercises the long muscles of your arms and legs, and gives your body a more sculpted look. For the same reasons, making love can step up your metabolism and help you lose weight. Lovemaking makes you look and feel better overall your hair is shinier, your eyes are brighter, and your skin is fresher and radiant-all circulatory benefits.

As wonderful as lovemaking is, there are some things toot it cannot do for your health. It can't make up for horrible health habits such as eating junk food, smoking, taking drugs, or using alcohol excessively. But with all the good feeling s that come from sexually inspired health, you may find yourself drawn to healthier habits anyway.